Oh hell yes, it's a gamble. There is a SUCH a huge difference between dating and marriage. People like the idea that marriage is forever, and it should be. I can not explain it but for whatever reason once you get married you will take some s*** from your spouse you would never have before you were married. The reason it's a gamble is because people change and when you get married you think you should be able to reply on your spouse, as well you should when you are married. But you will be disappointed by your spouse in marriage, no matter what. You can really see what your spouse is like when you are married. Dating doesn't compare and even living with someone before marriage isn't the same as being married. When you get married your expectations for your spouse will increase and they may fall short of your standards for marriage. Honestly, marriage is disappointing.
My crystal ball tells me that you think the odds of a Marriage working out aren't not great.
Gambling is about Probabilities.
You can increase the probability of winning.
That’s why prior to marriage it is recommended that you spend time with the person for 1 to 2 years; use ‘dating’ not just to see the good, fun side of the other person, use it to find out about the person’s life history, especially relationships (we can’t predict human behavior, we can use past behavior as an indication of what the person is capable of).
It’s very important to pay attention to ‘red flags’. I wouldn’t assume that ‘Love will conquer all’.
Studies show that love really is blind, that people in love can look at something and not see certain things that people not in love see.
Dr John Silver, PHD
Online Therapy and Counseling Until Midnight
Disclaimer: These are educational, non-clinical generalizations and may or may not fit the situation.
I am 100 % biased on the Sovereign Lord God! 'For it is written: "I will destroy the wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate."' 1 Corinthians 1:19 (NIV) "For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways," declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts."
So you think every thing that happens us in life, that is whether your Marriage is successful or not, whether your business is successful or not, whether you are Shot dean in Sandy Hook School at age 6 or Not, etc. are all in ""Gods control"?
And not in our control?
God is Sovereign! Jesus answered, "I am the Way, and the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father God except through me." John 14:6 (NIV) Obviously you are biblically illiterate! You will some day face death, then you will give an account of your life to Jesus Christ! 'It is written: "As surely as I live," says the Lord, 'every knee will bow before me; every tongue will confess to God.' "So then, each of us will give an account of himself/herself to God." Romans 14:11-12 (NIV