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rogerscottr001

Joined: 2013-02-16
Location: United States
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Posted On: 2013-04-29 09:05:18
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Do you think that marriage is a gamble?

Do you believe that marriage is a gamble, if yes, then why? Is this that, we usually go after marriage because of following social dogmas or something else?

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serenity900


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5 years 8 months ago

Yes, Marriage is like play the best game, need to have good strategies and always be alert!
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essdetective


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5 years 9 months ago

Marriage is not a gamble. But before you get married know hidden things about your spouse.Know his real background, qualification, financial status , habits, nature , job profile etc.
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cultofmirrors


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Oh hell yes, it's a gamble. There is a SUCH a huge difference between dating and marriage. People like the idea that marriage is forever, and it should be. I can not explain it but for whatever reason once you get married you will take some s*** from your spouse you would never have before you were married. The reason it's a gamble is because people change and when you get married you think you should be able to reply on your spouse, as well you should when you are married. But you will be disappointed by your spouse in marriage, no matter what. You can really see what your spouse is like when you are married. Dating doesn't compare and even living with someone before marriage isn't the same as being married. When you get married your expectations for your spouse will increase and they may fall short of your standards for marriage. Honestly, marriage is disappointing.
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rogerscottr001 6 years 1 week ago

May be you have some bitter experience in life, whatever it would be, I really like the
way you have expressed... thanks a lot for your kind participation....

cultofmirrors 6 years 1 week ago

No problem, rogerscottr001. You're right, I can be a bitter person. :\ Just call me
Tardar Sauce.


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Chasizit


Points: 18 | Trainer

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6 years 3 months ago

"You got to know when to hold 'em, when to fold 'em,
Know when to walk away, know when to run."~ Kenny Rogers, 'The Gambler'
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sherryrn1 6 years 3 months ago

God cannot help those who refuse to be helped!


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hallenterprises12


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6 years 3 months ago

If you know the person you are going to marry and you both love each other, I do not consider it a gamble. At least your best friend (your spouse) will be going into the marriage with you!
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DrJohnSilver 6 years 3 months ago

The one thing in this world that never changes is change.

So, the laws of nature have to be broken to imply people don't change and there is
absolutely no chance that people could change in different directions for there to be no
gamble (a probability of 0).

I guess maybe there is another possible scenario of 'no gamble'. Two people who
implicitly agree to never discuss their unmet needs or have a conflict of any kind.

'And they lived Happily Ever After.'

sherryrn1 6 years 1 week ago

People change, but God does not change, that gives my life Stability!

cultofmirrors 6 years 1 week ago

Heard that, sherryrn1.


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DrJohnSilver


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6 years 3 months ago

My crystal ball tells me that you think the odds of a Marriage working out aren't not great.

Gambling is about Probabilities.

You can increase the probability of winning.

That’s why prior to marriage it is recommended that you spend time with the person for 1 to 2 years; use ‘dating’ not just to see the good, fun side of the other person, use it to find out about the person’s life history, especially relationships (we can’t predict human behavior, we can use past behavior as an indication of what the person is capable of).

It’s very important to pay attention to ‘red flags’. I wouldn’t assume that ‘Love will conquer all’.

Studies show that love really is blind, that people in love can look at something and not see certain things that people not in love see.

Dr John Silver, PHD
Online Therapy and Counseling Until Midnight
DrJohnSilver.Com

Disclaimer: These are educational, non-clinical generalizations and may or may not fit the situation.
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rogerscottr001 6 years 1 week ago

Quite sensible answer. I really like the way you define, thanks for your kind comment.


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Faxonly


Points: 320 | DemiGOD

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6 years 3 months ago

Sure there is an element of Gamble to marriage, since of course you cannot control how life will unfold.
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sherryrn1 6 years 3 months ago

God is in control whether a person wants to admit it or not, so just relinquish your
control to the Sovereign Lord God!

Faxonly 6 years 3 months ago

Maybe in your feeble Religious brain dead mind is "God is in control, but in the mind of
the People with intelligence, intelligence, Capital, Connections, Looks, etc. are in
Control.

sherryrn1 6 years 3 months ago

I am 100 % biased on the Sovereign Lord God! 'For it is written: "I will destroy the
wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate."' 1 Corinthians
1:19 (NIV) "For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,"
declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than
your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts."

Faxonly 6 years 3 months ago

Man you Religious freaks are really freaky.

So you think every thing that happens us in life, that is whether your Marriage is
successful or not, whether your business is successful or not, whether you are Shot dean
in Sandy Hook School at age 6 or Not, etc. are all in ""Gods control"?
And not in our control?

sherryrn1 6 years 3 months ago

God is Sovereign! Jesus answered, "I am the Way, and the Truth, and the Life. No one comes
to the Father God except through me." John 14:6 (NIV) Obviously you are biblically
illiterate! You will some day face death, then you will give an account of your life to
Jesus Christ! 'It is written: "As surely as I live," says the Lord, 'every knee will bow
before me; every tongue will confess to God.' "So then, each of us will give an account of
himself/herself to God." Romans 14:11-12 (NIV

DrJohnSilver 6 years 3 months ago

Faxonly, haven't you heard to not discuss Religion and/or Politics with people who already
have their minds made up?

Save your breath.

Besides, the world needs a variety of opinions.

The problem seems to be that some people think opinions are facts.

John Silver


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sherryrn1


Points: 3 | Trainer

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6 years 3 months ago

No, I do not believe Marriage is a gamble if you know the source of Marriage!
Read Genesis 1-4 in the Bible. 1 John 4:16b "God is Love."
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